In The Eye of The Beholder
I don’t take compliments well. I don’t know why, I just don’t. Which is weird since my Love Language is Affirmation. I don’t know how to respond when complimented. I feel…………weird.
My husband is my greatest fan and the major source of all compliments. He makes me feel loved (see previous paragraph mentioning love language). Shawn leaves for work before I do and is home before I am. In other words there are 10 hours of the day he doesn’t see me. He sees me at the end of the day with worn makeup, flat hair where it’s supposed to be poofy, rumpled clothes. He finds me beautiful. In that moment.
Today (Monday) was one of those days. I was satisfied (settled) with what I’d chosen to wear – which as ladies know can mean going through your entire wardrobe twice before finding something – my skirt probably could have stood to be ironed and my bangs hidden forehead could have definitely been less oily. Yet, Shawn’s response when seeing me was that “I looked good” (husband speak for beautiful).
Shawn’s favorite word for me is fancy. To him everything I do is fancy. I joke with him that I could be in a gunny sack and he’d still think I was fancy.
I may never be able to take compliments, and never think of myself as fancy, but he does and that makes all the difference in the world and makes me feel loved and beautiful.
Awwww… I love this
You make me appreciate husbands today – thank you!
Thanks for stopping by Jenny. Husbands deserve appreciation, even if it’s just for dealing with us and our mood swings.
i love the word fancy. and i love it that your husband uses it. =)
Me too!
This was beautiful… What’s so unbelievable about all this is that your husband’s thoughts towards you are just a glimmer of what God thinks about you.
I love that!
I found you from Sarah’s.
Thanks for stopping over Julie. I love that, that is the way God thinks of us too. He is showing me more and more that we learn to love and view things as He does because they are attributes of Himself.
I’m like you… I don’t really know how to process the compliments, even though I like them.
My husband has often told me the greatest gift I can give him “is to believe him when he tells me I’m beautiful”.
That husband of yours is one smart cookie. I think that is advise we all need to grasp. Not only with our spouses but our friends and more importantly God….He’s called us beautiful and we need to believe that otherwise we are calling Him a liar.
Thanks for visiting Manda.
Aww… your husband is so sweet! God has certainly blessed you with a wonderful partner!
Here from Sarah’s beauty link list.
~Jennifer
Thanks for visiting Jennifer. He certainly has.
I love this post! I think many of us struggle with receiving compliments, I wrote about that in my beauty post too. It’s an unfortunate phenomenon. But good thing there are men like your husband who keep on giving them anyway!
It is an unfortunate phenomenon. You have to wonder if even Eve struggled with this. I want to lean towards yes. Here was the perfect woman. Without sin. Beautiful. Created in the image of God and from the body of her own husband. Yet sin entered the world and with that fear and doubt.
Hi there, I’m visiting from Sarah’s blog…if you’re interested, you can read my post here: http://onegirl-itjusttakesone.blogspot.com/2010/03/what-is-beauty.html
An old friend of mine used to say, “If you don’t believe that you’re beautiful, you won’t believe it when I tell you so.” In other words, I had to believe it for myself first. It took a while. It’s not a ‘quick fix’…but I think it’s great that your husband tells you so. Affirmation is high on my love list, also.
Aww, this is amazing. Please pray that I believe that God says I’m beautiful and that He gives me a husband who is able to love me the way God knows I need to be loved (and vice versa). I’m blessed by this!
Hi Jessica. Thanks for stopping by. I like that you are praying that God gives you a husband that loves you the way He does. It’s odd cause I don’t ever recall praying that myself, but I ended up with that kind of man. When we first started dating my husband told me he wouldn’t tell me he loved me until he was sure he loved me the way Christ loved the church. I was blown away. It gave me so much respect for him as a man. Especially since I’d dated someone previously that only wanted to get in my pants.
Praying that God over flows you with His love and brings you someone that will love you the way He does.