I’m not a perfect wife. I’m not even close to being minutely perfect.
I don’t consciously pray for my husband every day. I fight hormones that cause my boiling point to be 27.2°. I sometimes don’t provide home cooked meals and cereal & frozen waffles & fried egg sandwiches become staples in the Landis household on those nights.
Laundry often is kept in the dryer, or the laundry basket down stairs. I don’t keep a nice clean house. And I’m very often, very selfish with my me time.
I may not be a perfect wife, but I love my husband with abandon.
Yesterday, Tam shared a post on what she feels she’s good at. She turned it back on her readers and asked them what they were good at.
To be honest, I’m not sure I’m even a good wife. This is a struggle of mine. Even if you take out the proverbial perfect Proverbs 31 woman and the enemy’s lies that this is our standard, I still long to be the best wife I can be. I very often feel that I don’t even come close to measuring up.
But I believe the question that needs to be posed is, what is a good wife?
A good wife not by society’s standards or the mother-in-law’s or even our own.
I have a feeling that even were we to meet all these expectations, we could still fail. And we would most certainly feel like we’ve failed.
I think our standard in everything needs to be Christ. But we need to realize that with Christ at our standard, we will fail. Yet, just like our pursuit to be like Christ in our lives in general, we pursue being the a spouse the way Christ is a husband to us.
Both are a long, hard road of sanctification and learning.
We must clothe ourselves and our marriages with grace. I feel there will be less pressure when we stop trying to live up to everyone’s expectations and live solely for God’s. In the end, His opinion is the only one that really does matter.
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
A perfect wife would be horrible to live with. The ebb and flow of the unexpected is what makes life exciting.
“Good” is subjective imo. It doesn’t matter to me what Proverbs 31 says. I know you are indeed a very good wife.
You are the best wife.
(and btw, our house smells amazing currently because of the awesome wife who resides there)
I love you babe. You are a very good husband.
I get this. I feel like I let my husband down a lot too. Not with the housework or cooking. Thank goodness he doesn’t care about that. But with my battles with depression. Sometimes I feel like he deserves a happier wife. But I remind myself that God has given us each other for a reason–to sharpen each other. Sometimes my husband sharpens me more than I do him.
I can relate. My husband is at times literally my balance to my imbalance. And yes, God provided you a husband that would be able to meet you where you’re at. In your great days and your not so great days. What a gift.
A perfect wife to me would be someone with whom I know I could always be who I am without fear of condemnation, who loves only God more than they love me and understands why I would cry if the Eagles won the Super Bowl.
Anything else is just icing on the cake.
(And FWIW, I believe you’re a great wife from all I read and things I’ve heard people say about you.)